My name is Nikki and my blog is an outlet for sharing the things I am most passionate about. I love travelling, yoga, writing, and eating Indian food. I am passionate about advocating for the special needs community and educating our youth around the world. I run a blog design business, Blogs For A Cause, and live in Toronto, Canada.

Wednesday, October 26, 2011

India Books

A few books about India I have read in the past few months that I would recommend:

Holy Cow by Sarah Macdonald- Sarah’s husband moved to India as a journalist, so she followed him there, and shares her stories of life in Delhi. She is a very funny writer and also does a lot of travel througought the country, so can share her experiences in many different cities. During one chapter she did vipasanna, which I found particularly interesting. She went to an ashram to practice this form of silent meditation; 10 days where you wake up at the crack of dawn to meditate. You cannot speak, read, watch television, do anything really, except eat a simple meal, rest, and meditate. It was really interesting reading about her experiences with this.

Sideways On A Scooter by Miranda Kennedy- Miranda lived in Delhi as a foreign correspondent for 5 years. She tells the story of her life there, but focuses in on castes and specifically the life of a woman in India. I couldn’t put this book down. I never learned much about the caste system when I was in India but find it very interesting. Women’s issues have always been of interest to me, so I loved how she told this through the lives of several women she met. She is a funny writer, but I also learned so much. It is a very good read for anyone wanting to learn about Delhi, the caste system, globalization, arranged marriage, or global gender issues.

Untouchables by Narendra Jadhav- As I learned in the book, every sixth person in the world today is Indian, and every sixth Indian is an untouchable (also known as Dalit), the group at the bottom of the Hindu caste system. The author writes the story of his parents, both untouchables, and their experiences standing up against discrimination. They had personal experiences with Dr. Ambedkar, leader of the untouchables and one who arranged for hundreds of thousands of untouchables to convert to Buddhism (including the author’s parents) to escape their discrimination. I knew very little about the history of the untouchable caste and found this fascinating, particularly the way the story was intertwined with that of “Babasaheb” Ambedkar’s.

White Tiger by Aravind Adiga- This wasn’t my favourite story about India, but I thought I would include it on the list because it’s a decent read. It paints a pretty negative picture of India, and while there are these negative sides, it just wasn’t the India I know. It is a novel, not a memoir as many of the others on this list are. It is written from the perspective of a low-caste driver for a wealthier Indian man, and shares how he involves his life into one filled with corruption, murder, and lies. For what it’s worth, it’s a quick read and I enjoyed it on the basis of the story (and learned a bit more about caste system and the life of a servant in India) but it isn’t the best portrayal of India.

The Inheritance of Loss by Kiran Desai- I had a hard time getting into this novel, but it has won several awards so I wanted to include it. It tells two stories; that of Sai, who is growing up in Darjeeling, India, and that of Biju, an illegal Indian immigrant living in the USA. The author writes another book set in India called Hullabaloo in the Guava Orchard, that I have not read.

King of Bollywood Shah Rukh Khan by Anupama Chopra: I am in love with Bollywood. I find it so much fun and so entertaining. The first Bollywood film I ever watched was Devdas, starring Shah Rukh Khan, or “King Khan” as he is known. Shah Rukh is the King of Bollywood and as famous, in India, as Tom Cruise and Brad Pitt combined! I found this book super interesting and entertaining. It was a light and easy read, and inspired me to go out and rent several Bollywood movies! It seems silly, but Bollywood really is such a huge part of Indian culture. Going to see Hrithik Roshan’s film, Kites, when I was in Delhi was so much fun. I will definitely go see another Bollywood when I go back!

Wednesday, October 19, 2011

Son of God Orphanage... abuse in Haiti

Today I was reading a blog of a woman whose son was adopted from Haiti. She shared the following story, which I have felt compelled to share as well.

"Help us be their voice"..."There are over 75 children in Son of God orphanage in Carrefour, Haiti. This orphanage is full of abuse, physical, sexual, emotional. Full, FULL of trafficking. Child trafficking (which one of the directors of the orphanage is now in jail for) and organ trafficking. Yes, ORGAN trafficking. Officials have been able to track organs back to this orphanage. Children’s organs...."

The story disgusts me. This couple disgusts me, who made this happen to these children. But it also made me think. I googled the orphanage, Son of God orphanage, and found posts like these:
Supplies For The Son of God Orphanage

The Story of Two Haitian Boys

75 Orphans In Haiti Need Your Voice

"Friday the team returned and further blessed the orphanage with school, craft and personal hygiene supplies. Since Pastor Max is also a doctor running a medical clinic among the provisions was a bag full of band aids, vitamins, antibiotics, gauze, and other first aid supplies."

I found links to fundraisers, photos of volunteers cuddling the kids, blog entries sharing Max's "rescue" of those living in his home. And I thought back to organizations I have worked with. This could have been any one of them.

There have been times that I have witnessed suspicious activity. In no way I am saying it was to this extent, but things that I knew weren't right. I heard organizations lie about children that were in their programs to make the situation seem more desperate (saying children were in the sex trade when they were not), I have seen neglect in orphanages, seen bad choices being made. When we are in a different country, sometimes uncomfortable, not knowing how things are done, not wanting to overstep our boundaries, as it is clear from this we can totally overlook major human rights violations... corruption... neglect.

I have probably gotten in more trouble for asking TOO many questions and being too critical, but I would rather be critical and really look deeply into the organization I am partnering with than to have put my time and funds and HEART into a program to find out that abuses that are happening. Most of all I mourn for these children, but I also feel for those who support Son of God orphanage- who fell in love with those kids- and now are finding out what was really going on. I can't imagine the sadness and guilt they must be feeling.

I think we can learn a lot from this... to not just go blindly and support whoever asks us for support. To not give handouts. To be totally transparent about funding allocation. To ask as many questions as are needed until we know exactly what is happening with every aspect of the program we are partnering with.

I am not trying to say we should not donate to charity- I think each and every one of us should make that a priority- I am just saying that we need to be smart about it. We need to take the time, ask the questions, and make it impossible for this to happen to any other child.

CLICK HERE to sign the petition for CNN to bring awareness on this topic to the news and for the orphanage to be shut down (yes... after all this... the children are STILL there, living in abusive conditions with Max's wife).

Monday, October 17, 2011

Contest To Support Andrielis' Education!

Andrielis is thriving in grade 9 at her new private school. I don't want her to do what is typical in the barrio she grew up in- to get pregnant young, to live a life of unemployment and illiteracy. Andrielis is going to follow a different path and she is working so hard to make sure that happens. Click HERE to learn more about how she is doing.

I need $1400 to pay for her grade 10 tuition/books/uniform. I am currently at $80. In order to get myself closer to this goal, I am giving away three gifts certificates. Tickets are $3 each, two for $5, five for $10 or ten for $20. You can make your donation to the Chip In button below. Anyone who posts about this contest on their blog gets one extra ticket, just let me know by linking the post in the comments.

Contest ends November 15, 2011. I will draw names, email the winners, and mail the winners their gift cards.

Please help me spread the word about this. It is so important that I raise these funds in order to secure Andrielis' future. Prizes and Chip In are below.


Two $25 Starbucks gift certificates to be awarded to two different winners: Now you’ll always be ready for your next latte, mocha or treat. Your Starbucks Card can be used to treat yourself or someone else at over 4,000 participating Starbucks locations.


One $100 RBC Visa Gift Card: RBC Visa Gift Cards can be used to make purchases wherever Visa is accepted. RBC Visa Gift Cards come with Visa protection and security features and registered.




Thank you so much!!